Being a Parent is Irrelevant

I had to take parenting classes a few months ago because one of the boys had gotten himself into trouble last summer. He gets counseling services, Intensive In Home services, and probation. When he was small, he was taught what you do and don’t do. I can speak from experience that kids will definitely only learn and follow what they want. It seems more like he will do the opposite of what I teach him. Or if I tell him I’m against something he is all for it. What I am taking away from all these services is that what I want for him and of him is irrelevant. But, of course, I’m a lousy person if he is doing wrong.

 

I saw this on Daddy and Mummy quotes yesterday:18011001_1643138562381067_4168294107647343014_n

 

I have always agreed with this kind of statement. I believe schools and some teachers overstep this boundary all too often. I’ve always felt that if you have an issue with something a parent does, you talk to them away from the kids. I try never to argue in front of my kids with another adult because it shows immaturity and is just plain rude.

All too often my feelings/wishes and beliefs are shot down by the people that are supposed to be helping, and most of the time right in front of my children. It’s been bugging me and I don’t have any more of a point to make (also lost my train of thought with all the obligations for the day) which means I’ll leave it at this. Just another rant.

 

 

RACIAL DISCRIMINATION AND PROFILING

We see talk about it all over the news, many of us deal with it in one sense or another(regardless of your nationality). I have had white people tell me I should go back home, call me a wet-back or spic, and tell me Spanish girls are only for screwing. I’ve had black people call me a cracker, tell me they’d like to see what it’s like to kiss a white girl, and say some other stupid crap. Other Hispanics have complained about the fact that I don’t speak Spanish well, show competitive racism, or just treat me like crap because I’m not exactly like them. Those are just the things predominantly in my mind for myself.

My son is bullied every single day by this group of black middle-schoolers in the Elmira City School District. My step-daughter is bullied constantly by this black girl at her high-school(and this one is racism based on what the girl says to her) and her little clique.

We are taught history so as not to repeat the idiotic mistakes made back then. However, it is looking to me like history only serves to give people ammo for their arsenal. The “minority” kids of now use it as an excuse to act like jack-asses and take vengeance on those who have nothing to do with what happened. My mother was Italian(either first or second generation American-born). My father is Puerto-Rican (Spaniard and Taino Indian mixture in the family line for at least two generations). Now the Taino makes us Native Americans by bloodline. So for all of you that say to go back where you came from, I probably have more claim to live in this country than you do. For the rest of you, kiss my ass, my family line has slaves in it too.

I make my voice heard without being violent. I say things brutally honest so that they stick in people’s brains. I am tired of how stupid some people in this country act.

As for the school district here, I am not the only parent that can’t stand it. I’ve heard from other parents how much disdain they have for this place. One woman I met last week told me her kid was stabbed in the hand at one of the middle schools. Our kindergartners get bussed to a school when there is a school walking distance from us because somehow this saves money. They have completely screwed up how the schools are determined. Not by the radius around the school but by grade now. Sticking more and more of the kids together as they get older. My baby has to see a counselor because the schools no longer know how to deal with kids that didn’t get stuck in daycare and preschool. I wanted to raise my own babies instead of having someone else do it, I had to work around a lot of my family’s schedule to achieve this, wanting only family involved is a hard thing to achieve. They call CPS over every thing my kids’ pull that they don’t like and I believe they’ve even made a few things up. This one jerk decided to go behind my back and try to talk to one of the services about how bad of a mother I am in her eyes. In her case I really think it’s because the first time she met me I said I couldn’t stand the school she was in. Where I lived a couple of years ago, the school worked with me to try to better my child’s behavior. This school tries to make me feel worthless over it. Got news for these people. I care about my kids enough to die if I have to. Which is what will have to happen for them to take my children from me. You hear about NY being such an interesting place, but the school system in this city FAILS¬†in how they treat parents.

2 faced people

I have to write this post because of something I have dealt with recently. I absolutely hate 2-faced people though.The ones that will be nice to your face and then say no limit of nasty things about you behind your back without even the slightest bit of conscience of the ugliness they portray in doing so. That whole saying “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all” should be in display regardless of who you are talking to. However, if you must say the not nice something…then tell the person that is in issue you do not like them, possibly with the reason, and be done with it. Don’t keep talking about them.

I have the belief that you should not lie to a person regardless of the way the truth may make them feel because the truth shows more respect. Being 2-faced is the same as lying. Lying insults the intelligence of whomever you are lying to. Also, a lie pretty much always gets figured out eventually. I guess you may not want to say the truth if the person has anger issues. Other than that I see no true reason for it.